FAMILY FIRST=)
July 13th, 2006 by guia9Ano kayang halaga ng tagumpay sa career
by: JB Jimenez - Ayala Land
Ano kayang halaga ng tagumpay sa career if it has
been achieved at
the expense of the family. What profit does a man
have kung mawawala
naman ang kanyang pamilya? OO nga, meron siyang
salapi na milyon ang
halaga, magandang mansyon, travels around the
world, and cavorts
with an array of girls, women, and ladies, pero naman
ang kapalit
kung ikaw naman ay being hated by your daughters
and is the mortal
enemy of your sons. Can success in career really
make up for failure
at home? Which then is more important, wealth or
family. A great
number of us would readily say family. Pero totoo
kaya na ang ating
sinasabi ay ating ginagawa. But do we walk our talk
ika nga? Are we
willing to translate our mindsets into concrete
actions? Day by day,
we are bombarded by 52 million dollar questions,
Sino ba ang
mahalaga ang mga anak ko o ang trabaho ko.
To my fellow employees, I don’t know how you react
out there or
would Answer my questions. In my case, as an
accountant who always
spend overtime in the office to be able to submit
deadline reports
come month-end or cut-off period, I have made
unforgivable mistakes.
If I have to live my life again, I would need to overhaul
my
priorities, to rechannel the efforts that I Have been
exerting with
passions and commitment . I thought all along na ang
Lahat ng
ginagawa kong pagpapahirap at pagtratrabaho to the
max to get a
promotion, I am doing it all for the family. But I was
wrong. Today
I know better. When my wife or daughter is on the
phone I make sure
that I attend to them first, never mind if there are
urgent things
to attend or papers to submit to my superior, after all
they can
wait for 10 minutes…but if I deny the 10 minutes that
is so
important to them, it would have a lasting effect than
to my Boss
who might be replaced in a couple of years.
My family is my top priority, period. It is not a choice
between my
family and my career. MY FAMILY IS THE REASON
WHY I NEED A CAREER.
My career will come and go, employers can come
and go but one’s
family Will remain even beyond the grave. They even
take care of our
graves. Noon kahit mayroon affairs sa school ang
aking mga anak, I’d
tend to preponderate toward the official duty and
delegate the
affairs of my kids to my wife. I used to operate on the
paradigm
that I should focus on the duty first before pleasure.
Now I know
that MY first duty is toward my loved ones. I should
put my time
where my heart belongs.
Today if I will to do it all over again, I’d reverse my
priorities.
My son will only graduate once in elementary and only
once in high
school, I will make sure I will be there, I will file my
vacation
leave and if my Boss rejected it because I need to
attend to a
company function where I am required to attend, I
would still go to
my kids graduation no matter what the
consequences are. This time I
am willing to become an average corporate officer, a
so-so business
executive but a great father. I’m willing to be
reprimanded by my
Boss for a late report but not hated by a daughter for
not
remembering her birthday every year…..na ilalabas ko
siya the
whole day and cherish the moments every minute
dahil alam ko hindi
ko na maibabalik ito kapag lumaki na siya at kung
gawin ko man
later, baka huli na. There are more important matters
compared to
corporate business meetings, Family peace and love-
these are the
ones that matter most.
BUT I SPEAK ONLY FOR MYSELF. I DO NOT
IMPOSE VALUES ON YOU GUYS OUT
THERE.
If you think possessions are more important than
family, go ahead.
Spend 20 hours in the office, bring home your
corporate work.
Neglect your wife.. don’t spend quality time with your
kids. Don’t
attend important family gatherings. Find work that you
are away for
a week and only meet your family every week-ends,
oh what a waste.
Delegate raising the children to your spouse. Leave
the young kids
to the nanny. Let the driver bring your kids to school.
Ask someone
to represent in your son college graduation. If you find
something
wrong at home, don’t mind it, anyway your
concentration is in your
job. You have your career remember? Don’t greet
your father and
mother on their anniversary. Spend all your time in
the company.
Baka mawala ang tiwala ng Boss mo sa iyo sayang
ang pinagpaguran mo
ng matagal. If you have aging parents, don’t visit
them. enjoy your
career in isolation. Drink, dance, be merry, But in the
end, you
lose all the love ones who love you more, after
neglecting them. No
wife, no kids, no family. you are alone and pretending
to be happy.
don’t blame your company. don’t lay the Burden on
your Boss. Hindi
ba, You made the choice? You opted to put more
value on your career.
Dahil sabi mo pinaghirapan mo lahat ito and
pangarap mo na ito
simula pagkabata dahil mahirap ka lang ikamu…gusto
mong yumaman.
You gambled and you lost.
I know of an executive na masyadong
depressed…every week lang
siyang umuwi sa pamilya niya. Week-ends lang niya
nalalaro ang mga
bata kung minsan required pa mag-stay ng sabado
sa office, who finds
no meaning in his life, he’s got the money, a beautiful
wife who
according to him might be hiding something from him
(you know what I
mean) and the kids are not genuinely closed to him,
for no apparent
reason he had pulled the trigger to his head. He’s got
everything
and he lost everything. that is the tragedy of it all.
As for me, I know better. After all the pains, the
burdens of
mistaken priorities, I have made my choice. Anytime,
anywhere, my
family comes first. My career, my business, my
outside clients, all
my other pursuits are only means to the end of all my
sacrifices, my
wife, my sons, my daughters, my family. I shall thus
manage my
various objectives well. there shall not be conflicting
objective
anymore. For I now know clearly my priorities and
shall be faithful
to them. I shall be willing to give them up; excess
money, much
comfort, travels, and girls for and in the name of the
family. That
is simple and straightforward.
PS. Are you aware that if we die tomorrow, the
company that we are
working for could easily replace us in a matter of
days. But the
family we left behind will feel the loss for the rest of
their
lives. And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more
into work
than to our own family, an unwise investment indeed,
don’t you
think? And we often treat strangers and coworkers
better than
members of our family.
CREDITS: Thanks JAYA for this SUPRB POST! =)
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